Friends,

I just wanted to comment on something that Elena, who also happens to be one of my best friends, has brought up.

"Pain. I love it."
Some would find that a strange statement, but I think if you look deep enough you'll find that it's true for many people, one of them being me. Pain may be hard, pain may be, well, painful, but it makes you stronger.
You must learn from your mistakes.
After all, what is life about if not learning as you live?

Elena has taught me something today, as she has taught me things very often:
Pain is both your best friend and your worst enemy. It will make you stronger, and you certainly learn from it, but it also hurts... but that's okay.

FDR said, "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself."
I think this applies to pain... we fear pain, we sometimes fear that others will be hurt, but (and this is another thing I've discussed with Elena in the past) sometimes this fear that others will be hurt is simply a stretch of YOU not wanting to be hurt. Think about it... if this certain person is hurt or upset, why else would you fear this happening if it wouldn't hurt YOU?
So is it really you you are thinking of after all?
Do you not want this person to get hurt, or do you not want yourself to hurt because of this person's grief?
I would love to hear everyone's comments about this.

8 Comments:

  1. Elena said...
    Yes! Yes! And oh, yes. :)
    I love everything you just stated.

    ...and thank you very much. I was not expecting this...it makes me feel extremely special.
  2. averageteen said...
    You should feel special, because you are a very special person! You have taught me so much in the time I've known you, and I don't think you understand how influential you are in my life.
  3. averageteen said...
    I also want to dedicate this post to Jacob, who did indeed have some very good ideas in his comment, although, and I apologize to Jacob, Elena was my inspiration and I learn more and more from her every day.
  4. Thanks For All The Fish42 said...
    Oh I love this. So cynical.
  5. averageteen said...
    Haha, it is... but sometimes you have to think of things that way to see the "multiple perspectives."
  6. randomly happy said...
    i see what you mean about the multiple perspectives... thats why i said this was helpful but i do not feel anything like this towards pain. I'm dead afraid of it and it paralyzes. it might have actually become paranoia, but oh well. like my daddy tells me , "i'm such a jellyfish."
  7. Anonymous said...
    I love your blog!
  8. averageteen said...
    Thank you so much!! I'm glad :-) Don't forget that you can always email for advice, or just post a problem and I'll be happy to answer.

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